Making Decisions 101
Write down one decision you are trying to make. Now, answer these questions:
~What is behind my decision?
~Is my motivation to be liked, appreciated, or accepted?
~Who is behind my decision?
~Am I concerned about what others would think?
~Are my choices and decisions based on my relationship with God?
~Who loves me more? Do I let those who love me most have greater influence, or do I worry more about those who could care less about my heart, spirit, soul, emotions?
On another piece of paper make three columns. Pick one of the decisions you KNOW you’ll have to make. On the top of the page list any one of those decisions. In the first column write “Spouse.” In the second write “Friends.” In the third column write “God.”
Now, consider what type of advice you would get from your spouse, friends or God. Write each one’s advice under their heading.
Finally, at the bottom of the page, write that person’s motivation. (Why would he/she/they make that decision for you?) For example, your friends might push you to do certain things. And your spouse might want you NOT to do those things because of the cost or the influence it has on you.
And what about God . . . how do you think He feels about these activities? If you’re not sure, go to His Word, and ask Him to guide you to the answers. Psalm 138:3 says:
When I called, you answered me; you made me bold and stouthearted (NIV).
If you aren’t sure of what God’s answer would be seek out a mature Christian for advice.
There are some decisions that will make a BIG difference to your life and faith. Just think how much better your decision will turn out if you take time to think it through beforehand. When the time of decision comes . . . the work is already done. After that, you just need to follow through, allowing your service to Jesus to rule over being a slave to the opinions of others. After all, scripting your responses makes dealing with the drama 100% easier.