Parents in a Digital World...
Focus on the Family ran this article I wrote on how to help your children be tech savvy and SAFE!
Technology doesn't have to be a frightful menace for today's parents; it can be an important ally. Parents brave enough to enter their child's digital world can discover priceless opportunities. "Since my daughters are on MySpace a lot, I decided to sign up," Wilson says. "Now I know what they're interested in, and what they're hearing and seeing. I also like to send them messages and leave comments on their pages. They do the same back to me. It's one more way to let them know I love them and want to be a part of their lives."
MySpace, however, can expose your children to questionable content and online predators, so carefully consider the benefits and dangers of this site before allowing them to use it. Instant messaging is another way to connect with your kids. Michele Huey of Pennsylvania is an IM buddy to her son, a junior in college.
"When my son started college," Huey says, "he downloaded AOL's Instant Messenger on my computer. He's the only buddy I have, but we connect nearly every day. We've had some heart-to-heart conversations . . . and it has brought us closer."
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Labels: children, IM, internet safety, ipod, myspace, technology, teens
Body Drama
I never expected to be considered an expert on teen pregnancy, but as someone who was a teen mom, mentors teen moms, and wrote a book for them ... guess what?! This week I had a fun opportunity to be interviewed by a writer for Cosmogirl. You can check out the lady who interviewed me at:
www.NancyRedd.comSo, it was a great conversation, and I'm eager to see what's going to make it into the article. Nancy was Miss Virginia 2003 and she ran for the '04 Miss America title. Anyway, the same day as the interview I was kicked back on my couch flipping through the Feb. 4 edition of People Magazine (yes, that is one of my weaknesses). Anyway, I got to page 85, and I sat up straight. THERE was Nancy Redd ... and a story about her book
Body Drama.
After talking to Nancy I ordered a copy of the book. It came yesterday, and I started flipping through the pages. First, I have to admit I was surprised by all the photos of body parts. Real, live, fleshy girl parts. Then, I thought about how useful it would have been to have a book like that when I was a teen. It shows what's normal, what's not, and what you should do about it. (Note: I recommend this book for mature teens and adults only ... not something you want your younger kids to stumble upon!)
Now, some people might not like that naked parts are in the book, but I'm letting my teen girl read it. In a culture that is made up of airbrushed models, I think this book will help girls, including my daughter, deal with their body issues. Gee, I might just learn something, too!
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Labels: body image, Nancy redd, teens
God's choices or booby-trap proof...
I recently wrote this for a teen publication...but, I think it has principles of success and failure that applies to everyone regardless of age.
Not too long ago, I helped a family member purchase a money order to mail to her daughter who lives out-of-state. It seems this person's boyfriend kicked her out, and she'd been staying in a hotel. Unfortunately, she ran out of money, and her boss from the local diner had already fronted all he could. This person needed money quick, and she didn't know where else to turn.
Around the same time a friend of mine related the story of being startled awake by her son. It was 3:30 a.m. when the phone rang. Her son had been partying and needed a ride home. Though my friend had to work the next morning, she jumped out of bed and hurried to her son's aid.
Does this sound unusual? Maybe not. People find themselves in binds like this all the time.Well, what if I told you that these people in trouble were 50 and 55-years-old? That's right. They experienced adolescence in the 1960s, yet here they were not straying far from their old ways.
Many times teens get a bad rap for being irresponsible. Teens drive too fast. Party too hard. And don't make wise choices about their future.Well, as far as I'm concerned, wise-decision making has more to do with a right heart-attitude than with age. I've seen teens make very wise choices . . . ones that their older acquaintances should try to copy!
Proverbs 1:15 and 18 says, "Don't go along with [sinners], my child! Stay far away from their paths . . . they set an ambush for themselves; they booby-trap their own lives! Such is the fate of all who are greedy for gain. It ends up robbing them of life" (NLT emphasis mine).
For the past few weeks, I've been wearing a white wristband similar to Lance Armstrong's Livestrong. It says these words: "Choose Life." On the surface the meaning is pro-life, of course. But to me this bracelet also reminds me to choose life in all the decisions I make.
Deuteronomy 30:19-20 says, "This day I call heaven and earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live and that you may love the LORD your God, listen to his voice, and hold fast to him" (NIV).
Choosing life means choosing God's way. It's choosing to seek Him instead of the world's answers. It's choosing hope, peace, abundance, and faith. It means serving God and loving people, instead attempting to find happiness through live-in boyfriends and all-night-parties. It means not booby-trapping your own lives by making bad choices over and over again.
Each of us will mess up. I know I have too many times to count! But being "grown-up" means realizing those mistakes and deciding to take a better way. As Psalms 119:30 says, "I have chosen the way of truth" (NIV). Truth as Jesus gives it-not as Hollywood tries to display.
So the next time someone tries to give teens a bad rap, be sure to tell them differently. Let them know that you're choosing life. You're choosing not to bobby-trap your future. Choosing blessings instead of cursings.
After all, your choices are good choices when you choose God's choices for your days.
Labels: jesus, life advice, proverbs, psalm 119, teens
