Q & A Thursdays!
I'm starting a new series here at the blog. Woot. Woot.
Since my Focus on the Family interview I've been getting heaps of questions about marriage and relationships, so I thought I'd answer a few.
Look for a new question each Thursday. And, do you have a question? Send it here!
Did your husband have a hard time getting over the fact that you had prior relationships? If so, how did he get through it? How did you help?
John and I both had prior relationships ... although he was never physically intimate with his past girlfriends. It's been much easier for me knowing that he'd waited for me and doesn't have a sexual past. It's been harder for John knowing that I have a "history."
For many years I think we both tried to ignore my past. We didn't talk about it. I thought it meant that everything was fine.
It was after the phone call from an old boyfriend, Steven, that these things started coming to the surface. I discovered there was healing I needed.
John has been able to work through those past relationships because:
1) I have sought healing myself. Praying that God will "search my heart" and clean out all the crud.
2) I've been very open to John that I'm committed to him completely. I love him on a daily basis, in ways that he appreciates. I know his top love languages are quality time and physical touch and closeness, so I try to show him love those ways.
3) I leave the door open for him to talk to me about any concerns or struggles he has. For example, he recently mentioned he was worried about us attending my 20-year reunion. When I mentioned that I hadn't dated anyone in my class he was greatly relieved. I think it helps him just knowing he can come to me with questions/concerns.
I hope that helps!
What about you...have you dealt with this issue?